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I remember standing on a windy cliff in the Faroe Islands. My partner, who shares my love for dramatic landscapes, was back home working.
A wave of guilt washed over me. Should I be seeing this alone?
This feeling is common for travelers in relationships, a conflict born from the idea of saving travel for partner experiences.
But over years and 52 countries, I’ve learned that solo travel isn’t a betrayal of a shared travel dream. It’s an addition to it.
It’s about personal growth that you bring back into your relationship, making it stronger.
This guide isn’t about choosing between your partner and your passion. It’s about merging them.
Here are five lessons that transformed my perspective and will help you navigate your own solo adventures.
The Core Dilemma of Saving Travel for Partner
At its heart, the idea of saving travel for partner comes from a good place. You want to build a library of shared memories. The thought of witnessing a breathtaking sunset or a historic marvel without them can feel incomplete, or even selfish.
This is the root of feeling guilty solo traveling without my partner. It’s a fear of creating a memory gap, of having an experience so profound that it can’t fully be shared with words or photos.
But personal growth is one of the greatest gifts you can bring back to a relationship. A solo trip is a space for that growth. It allows you to face challenges, rely on your own instincts, and return as a more confident and interesting individual.
💡Mindset Shift: “And” not “Or”
Frame your travels as “Our trips and my trips.” This simple language change removes the feeling of opposition. It validates both shared adventures and your personal need for exploration, making them parts of a whole, healthy life.
Lesson 1: Redefine “Shared” vs. “Solo” Experiences
The first step is to understand that not all travel is created equal. Some trips are inherently about connection and romance, while others are about introspection and challenge. Classifying them helps dissolve the guilt.
You don’t have to save every place for your partner. Instead, you can consciously decide which types of travel experiences that are better with a partner and which are suited for solo discovery. This turns a vague feeling of guilt into a clear, actionable plan.
This distinction allows you to pursue personal interests without feeling like you’re taking something away from your relationship. Maybe you’ve always wanted to take a ten-day silent meditation retreat in Thailand or a rugged trek in Patagonia. These are perfect solo pursuits.
Skill-based trips, like a cooking course in Italy or a dive certification.
Deep, immersive museum trips where you can go at your own pace.
Challenging hikes or spiritual retreats that focus on introspection.
Spontaneous, budget backpacking where plans change every day.
Lesson 2: Proactive Communication is Your Foundation
How you talk about your solo trip is everything. If it sounds like an escape, it will be received as one. If it’s framed as an opportunity for personal development, it becomes a positive for you both.
Open, honest, and early conversations prevent misunderstandings. Discuss your reasons, what you hope to gain from the experience, and how you’ll stay connected. Reassure your partner this isn’t about a lack in the relationship, but a desire for personal expansion.
Most importantly, start planning your next trip together before you leave. This single act reinforces your commitment and shows that your solo journey is just one chapter in your shared story of exploration.
Explain what you hope to achieve with this trip for yourself.
Be specific, “I want to test my independence on a solo hike.”
This isn’t about escaping, it’s about growing.
Reassure them this makes you a better partner in the long run.
Agree on how often you’ll check in, daily text or a call every few days.
Some places lack good Wi-Fi, so mention that beforehand.
It’s about managing expectations so no one feels ignored.
A quick “goodnight” photo can mean the world.
Lesson 3: Curate Your “Solo-First” Destinations
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A great way to manage guilt is to choose places that align more with your individual passions than your shared interests. If you both dream of Japan, maybe save that. But if you’re passionate about bird-watching and your partner isn’t, a solo trip to Costa Rica’s cloud forests is a perfect fit.
This is where you can answer specific questions like is it weird to go on safari alone? Or should i see northern lights solo or with someone? The answer depends on your dynamic. If it’s your partner’s ultimate dream, maybe wait. If it’s a shared interest but your scheduling is impossible, consider going solo and planning a different “big” trip together.
🌍Solo Gem: Ljubljana, Slovenia
Ljubljana is incredibly safe, compact, and friendly, making it ideal for a first-time solo trip. According to the 2025 Global Peace Index, Slovenia ranks as the 7th safest country in the world. You can explore the castle, wander the riverbanks, and take day trips to Lake Bled or Postojna Cave entirely at your own pace. It feels adventurous without being overwhelming.
Deciding on those “bucket list” items requires a personal calculation. There is no single right answer, only what’s right for your relationship.
Going solo is not weird at all—safari tourism is statistically safer than many activities, with only 1-2 deaths per year from 3-5 million annual safari tourists. Many small group tours are specifically designed for solo travelers!
It’s a very meditative and personal experience to watch wildlife.
But seeing a lion for the first time is a gasp-out-loud moment.
Consider if that’s a “gasp” you primarily want to share.
2025 is the perfect year for Northern Lights viewing due to the solar maximum, a peak in solar activity that happens every 11 years and increases aurora frequency.
The hunt involves long, cold, quiet nights of waiting—perfect for personal reflection.
However, it’s also incredibly romantic and awe-inspiring with a partner.
If it’s THE number one dream for you both, it might be worth the wait.
Lesson 4: Create Rituals to Share the Experience Remotely
Bridge the distance by creating small, consistent rituals that make your partner feel included. This actively transforms your solo journey into something you experience in parallel, even when apart. It shows you’re thinking of them and want to bring them along virtually.
These don’t need to be grand gestures. Simple, thoughtful actions can have a massive impact. It’s about sharing the small moments, not just the big sights. This changes their experience from seeing your photos later to feeling part of the day-to-day discovery.
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Scheduled “Virtual Coffee”
Set a time for a video call from a local cafe. Show them your view, the pastry you’re trying. It turns a simple check-in into a shared micro-experience.
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“Map Pin of the Day”
Send a screenshot of your map location at the end of the day. It helps them visualize where you are and follow your physical path.
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A Shared Playlist
Create a collaborative playlist before you go. Add songs that remind you of your trip; they can add songs that remind them of you. Listen when you miss each other.
Lesson 5: The “Re-entry” Plan Strengthens Your Bond
How you return is just as important as how you leave. Coming home isn’t the end of your solo journey; it’s the beginning of integrating it into your relationship.
Plan a dedicated time to share your experiences. Don’t just dump a thousand photos on them. Curate your best stories and insights. Focus on how the trip changed you or what you learned about yourself.
This is your opportunity to show them how your solo growth enriches your shared life. The confidence, stories, and fresh perspective you bring back are gifts to the relationship.
💡Post-Trip Date Night Idea
Plan a “travel debrief” date night. Cook a meal inspired by your trip, put on music from the region, and walk them through your top 10 photos. This makes sharing an intentional, special event that honors both your trip and your reconnection.
Use your solo experience as a launchpad for future shared adventures. The things you learned can help you plan your next trip together more effectively.
Use Google Photos to create a “best of” album with captions.
1SE (One Second Everyday) makes a cool video diary—still active in 2025 with over 1M downloads.
It compiles one-second clips from each day of your trip.
This is a quick, engaging way for them to see your entire journey.
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FAQs: Your Questions on Solo Travel in a Relationship
How do I handle feeling guilty solo traveling without my partner?
Acknowledge the feeling, but reframe it. Guilt often comes from thinking you’re taking something away. Instead, focus on what you’re adding: personal growth, new stories, and a renewed appreciation for your partner and home life that you bring back with you.
So, is it weird to go on safari alone even if my partner wants to go someday?
It’s not weird at all; many people do it, and safari tourism has an excellent safety record with only 0.5-1.0 deaths per million participants. The key is communication. If it’s a mutual, once-in-a-lifetime dream, it may be best to wait. If it’s a strong personal interest for you, consider a solo trip to one national park, while saving another iconic park (like the Serengeti or Kruger) to experience together later.
What are some travel experiences that are better with a partner?
Experiences centered on romance, relaxation, or nostalgia are often best shared. Think of a scenic train journey through Switzerland, a wine-tasting tour in Tuscany, or returning to a place you both love. Trips with complex logistics, like a long multi-country road trip, are also easier with a co-pilot.
How do I decide if I should see northern lights solo or with someone?
Ask yourself: is the experience about quiet awe or shared wonder? 2025 is an exceptional year for viewing due to the solar maximum. If you imagine the moment as a peaceful, personal reflection, go solo. If you picture grabbing your partner’s arm in excitement, wait. There’s no wrong answer, only what feels true to the memory you want to create.
What if my partner is not supportive of me traveling alone?
This requires understanding their concerns. Are they worried about your safety, feeling left out, or the cost? Address their specific fears calmly. Start the conversation by emphasizing the “and, not or” mindset and perhaps suggest a shorter, nearby solo trip first to show how it can be a positive experience for both of you.
How do we create a ‘bucket list’ of places to save for each other?
Make it a fun, collaborative activity. Plan a date night to specifically discuss this. Each of you can write down your top 5 “must-experience-together” destinations. The places that overlap form the core of your shared list. This process turns a potential conflict into an exciting planning session.
What are good souvenirs to bring back to make my partner feel included?
Think beyond keychains. Bring back something experiential. This could be coffee beans from a cafe you visited for a “virtual date,” a local spice mix to cook a meal together, or a small art print from a gallery you loved. The best souvenir is one that has a story you can share.
Is it more expensive to travel alone than with a partner?
It can be for accommodation since you can’t split the cost of a private room. However, you can save in other areas. You have complete control over your food budget, can choose cheaper transport options without debate, and might find you spend less on activities that only you are interested in.
How can my solo trip improve our future travels together?
A solo trip builds your confidence and problem-solving skills. You return a more capable and self-reliant traveler. This means when you travel together, you’re a stronger team, better equipped to handle unexpected challenges and navigate new places, making your shared trips smoother and more enjoyable.